Are you uncool, deviant, a self-made or self-proven outcast? In this Video I'm going to talk about why I don't like to go out in clubs anymore. One 33-year-old who was surveyed declared: Bouncers are always rude and aggressive with no cause; DJs usually play what they want not what people want to listen to; the drinks are overpriced.". I was a little bit depressed at the Time i wrote this.. Don't get me wrong, I love my friends and we hang out regularly when we get off work, but damn it's hard to beat a night out dancing my ass off at the club, warehouse or loft space. I don't blame them, if it's not a passion of theirs then move on. Many teenagers spend money got from their parents - i know from school. You're sick of visiting the Apple store for a new phone. Its 8:00PM on a Friday night. Was it all attributed to not drinking/clubbing? Not everyone drinks, but most of the people are either drunk or at least a little buzzed. I'll try to take a balanced approach of acknowledging that clubbing isn't perfect, but also sticking up for it and pointing out where I think the appeal is. The only reason they're in it is for something else. Some of the novelty wears off, and even if you're good-natured about the flaws, they still start to wear you down after you've experienced them enough. Eventually most stop going at all and will tell you they don't like clubs anymore. No, it's NOT okay not to like that thing? Do not post content that promotes hate based on identity or vulnerability. 38. You are never, ever going to meet anyone of substance at the club and you know that by now. If you don't like rock n' roll then you listen to something else. There is also a lot of pressure to not drink, and not relax due to comparing ourselves to our peers with jobs, relationships, healthy lifestyles., Alice, 28, from Manchester said: There is a surge towards being healthy and a night of drinking is a real turn off. It's negative and cynical to paint everyone with the same brush. Find another social activity that you like and do that instead. When they do so (and sometimes it's not as bad as they were anticipating, or it is at least more pleasurable than sitting home and wondering why they're aberrant), then they actually feel relief for acting like extroverts--while repressing the dissonance between who they are and who they pretend they are. 23(M) but I dont drink very often anymore and I no longer enjoy going clubbing. Hundreds of clubs have closed in recent years. It's not hard to see how some people could decide it's not their thing: Even among people who like clubbing, these things sometimes get on their nerves. That makes everyone look like the stereotypical shallow clubber, even if they're philosophy students by day. 14. 60. T here are a lot of reasons why Kaley, 23, doesn't go clubbing any more. EVERYONE annoys you, drunken people especially. Do not call people names or engage in slapfights. You can sit around saying, "My girlfriend likes to party and I don't" and hoping that things will change by themselves. Sure it costs money but what else are you going to spend your money on when you are young? Tried it one time and one time only and that's only because it was for a friend's birthday. I'm Chris Macleod. I totally realize that for many people clubbing will never be their style, and that's fine, and they can do great in life without it, especially once they're past their early 20's. You've significantly scaled back on your glitter use instead embracing the "natural look.". If you hear Pitbull one more time, you will stab someone with a cocktail stirrer. Its a similar story for Michelle, 24, who says she went out a lot at university but now she prefers chilling at home, and spends her cash on one-off big events such as festivals. It's not worth it, trust us. These are just two stories sent to the Guardian in response to our survey asking millennials (those aged 18 to 35) about their relationship with a once treasured pastime: clubbing. PostedApril 12, 2014 clubbing sounds fun but it just isn't for everyone! 17. Take the time to look around and find a place with a good vibe, music you like, and a friendly crowd. A club full of drunk people all singing along together at 2AM is a very memorable and enjoyable experience (to the drunkards participating anyway). Youre just ahead of your friends. You like to dance. I dont need to worry about that on a night in., Mina, 19, from Walsall agreed: Not going to a club means youre less likely to get your drink spiked or get chatted up by creep strangers. It is like wanting to get into a house and bemoaning the fact that one of the windows is locked. Sometimes their night will be totally ruined because of something that goes wrong. Just dont shame them for wanting to go out and invite them to more intimate gatherings when you can. The trade off between a good night out from say 7PM to 7AM is a hangover for a half a day (depending on age) which isn't exactly terrible, especially if you are young and don't get bad ones. We've joined the BHM Digital family of websites and have updated our Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. Exhaustion. Youll be surprised how many people feel the same way you do, and like you better for who you actually are. Those of us that thirst for the dance know where to find it, and it's not at a fucking lounge! So you can end up doing things like hanging out with guys whose company you don't totally enjoy just because you want a wingman. 4. I'll get more into that later. I'm old enough that I don't care what they think. Copyright The Student Room 2023 all rights reserved. Time flies.. As you say, it is loud. 3. "Ugh, dancing is so mindless. Got stared at by older Chinese couple on the train .. Im female, black, 20 and I got refused from entering an Ensign bus. Yes, shes single and ready to mingle. We know. Dancing? Charming, lots of friends who all love you, many others who wish for your time and attention, exciting activities, nights out, weekends full, social demand. [Blog], Queen's University Belfast A100 2023 Entry, BT Graduate scheme - The student room 2023, Official Oxford 2023 Postgraduate Applicants Thread, How to handle colleague/former friend rejection again. Alex, 27, from Essex said: The reason we are less interested in clubbing is due to a combination of social media, being over-exposed and obsessed with how we want to be perceived to the outside (virtual) world. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. Even when I was 18 and went to my first club I didnt feel it. It was great. For a start, it's too expensive, with taxis, door fees and alcohol to pay for. They'll invite, but they're just being nice, they know im not into that stuff, Dude Im 28 Ive never been to a club for the same exact reason. But you don't notice the other two hundred guests who are behaving, and who are probably just as annoyed with the douchebags as you are. Could that be just a insecurity? I can't deny some club goers fit this description, but I think most of them are just like anyone else. Im more than happy to go for drinks or food but i hate how im made to feel not normal because i dont go out out. 25. Last time I went to Fabric the music was still good but I realised as I was walking out that Id been robbed.. There are a number of descriptors that you might assign to the person who feels this way: self-absorbed, narcissistic, boring, unexciting, selfish, above it all, and the list continues. You feel hungover after a single drink. In the cold light of day, its another story. I went once for a friend's birthday.. had a blast, spent too much money, danced like dorks in the corner because most of us were in relationships and didnt want to get hit on Then i never did it again or had the desire to do it again lol. Suddenly it's like you graduated from some kind of clubbing college and now you're the alumnus visiting the Meatpacking District Clubbing Campus and forgot everything you used to do when you went out at the height of your glory days. I can't stand it and won't do it. It's easier to enjoy things if you take them for what they are, rather than getting peeved about what they might have been. Someone may explain this to me? Anxiety could also be worse getting triggered by people trying to force you into situations that you arent comfortable in and thats not an issue with your anxiety, thats an issue with shitty friends. As a hermit myself I regret almost every day not taking a more proactive role in my life. You're popping another button like you're popping bottles, thinking you're sooooo bad. You prefer lounging on the couch more than dancing on it. You may have to wait forever to get a drink. Bro you're good, I'm the same age, some of my friends enjoy clubbing, others don't and they get I don't. I mean, you can talk to your friends on any night and you don't have to be super drunk to enjoy a club please. 16. When people tell you to "get low," you think youre being held up. I think I have slightly grown out of it, I am the type that just enjoys going to the Cinema, eating out and doing ordinary social activities (e.g sitting around having a chat) To top it all off I really hate drinking, I hate the smell, the taste and the effects of alcohol, even having . They plain don't care about some things that other people find aggrevating (e.g., crowded conditions, how everyone is behaving, cover charges, etc.). There are a lot of reasons why Kaley, 23, doesnt go clubbing any more. 40. By continuing to use this site, you agree to our updated Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. You can't tolerate other people. Every weekend i felt miserable and guilty for staying at home, but i learned that i don't like it and that its FINE! It's ALWAYS okay not to like something. Individual differences are great, but you have to celebrate yours! You refer to it as "da club." thank you so much. 37. here are a lot of reasons why Kaley, 23, doesnt go clubbing any more. Helen, 23, from Newcastle said: Im lucky to live in one of the few parts of the UK where a night out is still relatively affordable. Everyone needs a night out, but it doesnt have to be in a club, she says. When did this happen? Once you hit 25 or so, you start noticing how stupid half of the things kids in clubs do really are. Bars can be pretty boring if you go with the wrong people. Women who go out can get pretty hassled. Answer (1 of 3): Not everybody likes the same thing. 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